You must be thinking, who am I to tell you what is wrong with your relationship?? We see more words, things, and situations with our minds occupied. The relationship is on your mind… that’s why you are here.
You know what a relationship is. It’s a sound that comes out of the clap of two people. One of them is You…and someone else. Before finding out what’s wrong with your relationship with others, let’s see how well your relationship with yourself is going.
Do you know yourself well?
Self-awareness is the key to success in any area of life. Without knowing yourself, your desires, expectations, and what you want in a relationship, you can’t succeed in any other area.
So try to know why, in the first place, you think something is wrong with your relationship; I mean, sometimes we prioritise our relationship, especially if it’s a romantic one. We become so honest with one person that we lose connection with ourselves. You forget that you are as important as another person. Tell me, the person you are in love with
Has a job?
Has a family?
Has a hobby?
Has a Goal?
Are you interested in the arts?
Is introverts?
Is extrovert?
Suppose your answer is yes to three of these questions. In that case, chances are that a person will have very little time to spend with you, text you, or call you. Even if that person is available, you don’t feel like he/she is 100% present there. Why? Because something else is going on in the back of their heads. So, you mark all these behaviors as abnormal relationships.
The people we love are the loveable people. They are able because they are extraordinary, Talented, Rich, and Beautiful. All these qualities need some background work and a little maintenance, you know. So be okay with the time or attention they squeeze for you.
Learn to be Happy alone.
My second advice is to Be Your priority, no matter how much time you spend with someone else; finally, you have to be with yourself. You can also have your interests to feed. You can, too, be talented, successful, rich and beautiful. Just be as available to that person as he/she is available to you, and you know that you will feel that you are not seeking attention. You are not standing on the giving end.
As Eienstein Famously said
"If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things."
Dear reader, Relationships are not straight lines. They are curvy, wavy, and surprisingly dynamic. And you know consecutive lines are boring. If you are thinking about a relationship, if you are anxious, or if you are seeking a solution, you must start with yourself. I understand you are in pain, but you have a cure within. Good luck.